Diaspora’s Struggle to Belong Home and Away

Diaspora

Photo Illustration by Ezinne Osueke / THE REPUBLIC. Source Ref: Adeyemi Adebayo.

THE BLACK ATLANTIC

Diaspora’s Struggle to Belong Home and Away

If the media plays an important role in the extreme portrayal of the West as a haven in the mind of the African, we might also assume that the same media largely has a role to play in the making of the self-perception of Africans.
Diaspora

Photo Illustration by Ezinne Osueke / THE REPUBLIC. Source Ref: Adeyemi Adebayo.

THE BLACK ATLANTIC

Diaspora’s Struggle to Belong Home and Away

If the media plays an important role in the extreme portrayal of the West as a haven in the mind of the African, we might also assume that the same media largely has a role to play in the making of the self-perception of Africans.

I met Madiop, a Massachusetts resident who moved from Senegal in 2007, at a cafe and bar in downtown Amherst. Married to an American with whom he fell in love and wed in 2005 in Senegal, they moved to the United States two years later. For their wedding, he bought four handcrafted chairs, a gift worthy of their new home and matrimony. When they moved, the chairs moved with them, costing more than they had paid for their airfare and arriving three months later. To me, a great representation and memento from home. When I asked Madiop what he expected when he decided to move compared to his current reality, he told me:

A lot of things you see on TV are not right. People are poor. You live in Africa, and on TV, they show things that are nice [in the West]. They don’t show you real life, like the ghetto or places where people are homeless and things like that. I see a lot of people thinking this is better, but they come here disappointed. Most of them have good jobs at home; they’re lawyers, or they’re doctors, and they come here, working at restaurants, things like that. But there’s a mindset that here is a better life.

He’s since attempted a few times to apply for his sister to visit, but she keeps getting rejected. He likened the United States of America to a closed door that’s bound to attract some curiosity. ‘If this door is open, people are going to come and be like, I don’t need to be here, and they go back,’ he said, ’But the mindset of that closed door. I think people are curious about what exactly life is [behind the closed door]. But some of the life there is better than here.’

THE MARGINS OF LIFE

Madiop’s metaphor of the closed door reminds me of an event in 2013 when news made the rounds about a young boy who had found his way into the wheels of an aeroplane going from Lagos to Benin. He was only a couple of years younger than me, but even then, everyone understood his plight. He had hoped for an international flight. He had hoped for the United States. More than a decade later, it’s 2025, and there’s an interview of the same boy, now in his mid-20s, being asked about his escapade 12 years prior. Unsurprisingly, he still wants to go to his dreamland, the USA. Yet, the unquenched enthusiasm of this stowaway might quickly fade away in the elsewhere if he ever reaches there just like Farouq, a Moroccan immigrant character in Teju Cole’s Open City, who also echoes this desire for a utopian elsewhere: ‘When I was doing my undergraduate degree in Rabat, I dreamed of Europe; we all did, my friends and I.’ However, Farouq, who at the moment of the conversation resided in Brussels, continues, ‘But I have been disappointed. Europe only looks free. The dream was an apparition.’ Both Madiop and Farouq inadvertently echo the Ghanaian-British artist and filmmaker, John Akomfrah’s sentiments about postcolonial migration of Africans as an investment made by the African diaspora in the utopian possibilities of elsewhere. He calls it a kind of ‘immense faith in the elsewhere, which is in many, many ways wasted on the elsewhere’.

For people who get behind the door, arriving by whatever means; boat, marriage, study, or work, it may be hard to tell if the sentiment that elsewhere may not be worth it, eventually is truly the case. For one, more people keep coming. And for many that come, they might find that life elsewhere is much preferable to life at home. A few people become successful by every conventional measure. Still, for many people who leave voluntarily to change their lives, to invest elsewhere, for greener pastures, they find that they may have bought into the overromanticized idea of the elsewhere, propelled by the media. This mirrors Madiop’s observation about the half-truths shown on television.

James Baldwin, in his essay, ‘A Question of Identity’, writes of the American Student colony in Paris. He infers that they have been seduced by the media through which lens, a quaint room becomes a world of endless possibilities. They tarry, clinging to the unrealizable, nonexistent image they have of Paris, and refuse to recognize the real Paris. Both Baldwin and Madiop speak on the ability of the camera and media to romanticize even ordinary domestic living rooms. While the West is romanticized, Africa, and particularly Africans, as Okwui Enwezor, the curator and art critic, puts it, ‘Always appear at risk, on the margins of life itself, at that intersection where one is forced to negotiate the relationship between man and animal.’

Naefia, whom I met in her Springfield, Massachusetts home, expresses the same sentiment when I asked about the portrayal of Africa compared to the portrayal of America.

The media show the vulnerable children struggling to eat. Some of the sick children or some of the sick adults. Those things that they portray break my heart. You barely get a television to watch, but when you watch one and you see that you’re like, ‘Oh my god.’

But the portrayal of America, oh, America is everything. Like, if you come here overnight, your problems are solved. That was how I took it. Because everyone’s like I want to go to America. You have all this money to care for this, to buy this, to do this. You live in a dream in your head, that when you come, everything will be fine, but you have to come and work.

If the media plays an important role in the extreme portrayal of the West as a haven in the mind of the African, we might also assume that the same media largely has a role to play in the making of the self-perception of Africans. And although Africans eventually co-opted the tool of the colonizers to reinvent their own identity, this happened even as the West kept pushing the same images of the African as a creature on the margins of life and Africa as a place where ‘nothing good ever happens.’ It is possible for the African to develop a self-identity that is not afropessimist in nature while still seeing Africa as a place where nothing as good could happen as elsewhere. The image of Africa by the West isn’t dispelled even as the self-identity of Africans is being reinvented. When I sat with Andrews and his wife, Florence, both Ghanaians I had met in a church group, in their Northampton home, and asked him about his experience moving, his relationship with family, and familial expectations of him, he said:

The perception that we have back home is different from when we travel here. And the realities of life are different from being back home. So, those back home always think that there’s more money here. Everybody is on you. But you being here, you know the realities of the world.

It’s not very easy to come by money. When you are travelling for the first time, you also have that perception that when you come here, it’s very easy to get money. When I was leaving, I signed my whole chequebook for my brother to withdraw money from every month. When I moved here, it was difficult for me to get money. I called my mom back home, telling them to change some of the money in my own account into dollars for me to use. You know what she told me? Oh, it’s okay. What about those who take the ships to come to the country? They survived, so you’re gonna survive. Now, social media is helping a lot, and people get a chance to travel. Sometimes, I talk to some of my friends, and then they know that it’s not easy.

Andrews had moved first in 2009 with a visa lottery and filed for his wife, who moved in 2018. His views paint a picture of the perception of utopia that migrants and their kin often imagine to be elsewhere. This perception is quickly dispelled in the mind of the migrant, but not in the minds of their kin. This new reality that confronts the migrant may add to the isolation they feel, even from their kin, while they navigate new realities.

However, not everyone who leaves does so in expectation of utopia. Survival is one reason why many leave, no different from migration within Africa itself, where people choose exile to countries where they believe that the system is better, even if only marginally. Adzele T. Jones in Togo on My Mind writes about his family’s journey to the United States, largely inspired by the political unrest in Togo in 1994 and further made possible by the academic opportunity his father had gotten in the United States. Isidore Okpewho, in Introduction: Can We ‘Go Home Again’?, also writes about leaving Nigeria even after becoming a full professor just so he could continue his research. According to Okpewho, ‘some of us decided to leave our country and go where we might continue to make whatever difference we still could.’

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Indeed, there are legitimate reasons for migrating, but regardless, there’s a yearning for what’s left behind. Upon leaving, we begin, often, to develop an idealized memory of what we’ve left behind. Okpewho recognizes that many post migrants retain nostalgic memories of their native lands. Their children also embrace a romance of Africa. We remember home as a fixed point and place in time, a ghost, an apparition, once there but no longer.

At the same time, while the host land may offer a reprieve from whatever legitimate reasons people leave, it doesn’t quite satisfy the hyper-romanticized idea of elsewhere we have imagined or that has been created for us. This conflict, which Baldwin calls the difference between what one desires (an ideal that doesn’t quite exist) and what reality insists upon, leads to yearning for a nostalgic homeland that also exists only in imagination and memory and not reality. The American students in Paris can easily take the next boat home, but for the African in diaspora, a total return might not be feasible. Even if he does return, he’ll be faced with the difference between memory, reality, and the stark reality that home is perhaps not a static point in time. In any case, he may be met with a certain disappointment. The immigrant who is looking to reclaim or repossess their home must come to terms with the fact of home remaining and home changing, both at the same time. Naefia recounted her experience on her last visit home:

I wanted to speak my dialect, and all the kids that I encounter speak English. And I’m like, ‘Ah,’ what are you doing? I’m speaking my language to them, and they reply to me in English. And I said, ‘No, no, no, no.’ You really don’t want to lose that. Don’t lose your roots. That makes you unique. You are a Nigerian, you are a Ghanaian, you are this, you speak your language, but the kids don’t. They’re adapting to the lifestyle here.

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WHAT DOES RETURN MEAN FOR THE MIGRANT?

When thinking about returning home, we often conceive of a moment of permanent, physical return to the place of origin. In a conversation with my friend, Tobi, a sociologist and art professional, he maintains that the idea of return is a concept in constant development. Many people who leave as a way to survive and seek greener pastures have no reason or incentive to return to the same economic and political conditions that facilitated their exile, which already required a sacrifice. Often, a permanent return would mean facing even worse conditions than they left. According to the National Bureau of Economic Research, the per capita GDP in sub-Saharan Africa is more than 11 per cent less than it was in 1974.

A romantic dream of home and culture or a temporary visit is often more welcome, for the immigrant and their kin back home, than a permanent return. In 2024, for example, Lagos, Nigeria, was one of Africa’s hottest destinations as reported by CNN for Detty December, which is characterized by an influx of temporary returnees who can afford Lagos’ luxury life for a moment, as well as the familiarity of home that temporarily sates the nostalgia for home. Return, therefore, exists for many people not as permanent physical return but as tourism, much like foundational Black Americans’ pilgrimages to Ghana. Another prominent form of return is through global remittances, which increase every year. In 2023, global remittances to Africa by the African Diaspora exceeded $90 billion, and are on track to exceed $100 billion annually. A 2024 article by African Business highlights how Nigeria relies on remittances for economic recovery. Remittances to Nigeria alone are an estimated $20 billion annually, exceeding combined foreign direct investment and foreign aid. Naefia illustrated the impact of remittances on Ghanaian households and the standard of living. ‘To me, things have changed for the better because now, I would say, every ten homes, maybe four have travelled. One person is making it to support the home. It makes life a little bit better than when I was growing up there.’

For the most part, for both the migrant and his family left behind, it’s easier to deal with the coldness abroad than the declining conditions at home. The $95 billion in remittances to Africa in 2021 was estimated to benefit more than 200 million family members of migrants. Everyone I have spoken to has contributed to these remittances. The development of the critique of home and the existing systems is another dimension of return, where people who have left regret the conditions that make their permanent return only a pipe dream. They develop a third consciousness that allows them to place their home of origin on a pedestal with the rest of the world, and fosters serious critique. This return is exacerbated by internet connectivity, which makes current knowledge of elsewhere or home from elsewhere more accessible.

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In his 1978 essay, ‘Every Goodbye Ain’t Gone’, Baldwin writes on returning to America after a long exile in Europe, ‘I am not certain that anyone ever leaves home. When home drops below the horizon, it rises in one’s breast and acquires the overwhelming power of menaced love.’
Speaking of his early years in Paris, he talks of an elderly German acquaintance who had left Germany in 1933 because he refused to be a part of the criminal Nazi state: ‘Yet his repudiated homeland was present in everything he said and did. The French landscape, which he love,d could console, could even reconcile, but it could not replace the landscape he carried in his heart.

I met Freke, a councilman in the town of Amherst who was born in the United States to Nigerian parents and spent his formative years in Nigeria before moving back to the United States, on the University of Massachusetts Amherst campus. He relays his outlook on life, his idea of community, his love for books and education, and his appreciation for cooking to the time he spent in Nigeria. When I asked him what his relationship with Nigeria was at this point, he told me he maintains a tenuous relationship with the place.

I see Nigeria, and I see the frustration. If I were to go to Nigeria, I would simply go to visit, and I have gone a few times, and I felt frankly like an outsider. I now see myself as non-Nigerian. I come to Nigeria, and the people who hear my accent already peg me as someone who hasn’t been here, who hasn’t gone through the struggles. This is someone who is Black, but he’s not Nigerian.

The question of what becomes of the identity of the migrant, however, continues to linger regardless of the possibility of return. Often, diasporic subjects are at crossroads geographically, culturally, socially, and psychologically, but also at crossroads of race, gender, sex, language, and nationality. What makes one a Parisian, a Lagosian, or a New Yorker? These metropolitan spaces are characterized by diverse experiences and cultures in a physically defined space where different communities intersect and interact. I question whether the same can be said of diaspora. There’s no physical space, but perhaps the most important characteristic of diaspora, and particularly of postcolonial diasporic people, is the constant ‘inbetweenness’, and the flexibility of identity as necessary. For the postcolonial immigrant who starts in the Africa that has created conditions enough for self-exile, the idea of making home beyond the current horizons is fantastical, leading to constant flight to other elsewheres in search of utopia while retaining ties with home. Many others give up constant flight and make a home abroad. When I met Larry, who moved to the United States in 1979, in his African shop in Springfield, MA, he said, ‘If Nigeria was good, I’d just go and retire in the village and drink palm wine.’ To the question of whether he considers the United States home, he replied:

Yes. I’m a man with two homes. I’ve made it home here because I’ve got some children here. And no matter how I try to tell my children we’re Africans, they think they’re not Africans. They think they’re Americans. A little disappointment for my wife and I. But we haven’t given up on working on that. We need to take them back to Africa again and again. But the climate is not helping us.

Yet, a burgeoning possibility for many others is the cosmopolitan, nomadic, global citizenry idea of self and identity, fully accepting of the presence of a home in Africa, a home in their current host country, as well as other possibilities; of not seeking for settlement but carrying home with them everywhere, and with this movement, constantly remobilizing their identities as a way to transform elsewhere. I met Lola, a PhD candidate, who had moved to the United States as a teenager, in her office on the University campus, and we talked about the dual identity of diasporic peoples. She referenced Taiye Selasi’s TED Talk, where the author invokes afropolitan ideas and famously says, ‘Don’t ask me where I’m from, ask me where I’m local.’

When I asked Lola about the possibility of reabsorption into the Nigerian culture, she told me, ‘Who knows if it’s ever going to be a complete process. I don’t like to think of things as static. I think things are just generally evolving. And so, I think reabsorption, too, would probably be something that would still be evolving.’

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